Every relationship is different, and every couple has different needs and concerns. The Relighting Romance approach is meant to be customized according to your unique needs. I encourage you to similarly customize your Relighting Romance date book, using the following suggestions. You will know which things you need to emphasize and those you already do well:
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- Maintain ongoing, respectful communication.
- Maintain positive feelings between you.
- Take time to appreciate each other and recognize your mutual resources.
- Schedule regular talking time every other day or four times a week; take turns talking and listening.
- Schedule social time together with others, depending on your needs that week.
- Schedule a weekly partnering meeting and/or family meeting followed by a fun activity or event.
- Schedule a partnering meeting to work on each goal established in Step 8 (and each new goal that you establish). Incorporate dialogue to discuss big issues, plan a new project, or work toward future dreams. As you add new goals and create new action steps, keep track of your "to do" lists; report back on your accomplishments.
- Schedule a monthly financial meeting (to deal with finances discuss bills, review financial needs and planning, maintain financial health).
- Schedule discussions of topics that you have agreed on, such as Warren and Reba's need to "give back to the world" when they retire, or Amanda and Josh's need to practice the Intentional Dialogue. Do Couples Get Back Together After Cheating
- Review your list of accomplishments and goals.
- Reevaluate and revise for the coming months.
- Celebrate your accomplishments!
- Review your daily details and goal-setting schedule. Delete those goals and action steps that have been completed and integrate new goals and action steps.
- Revisit your commitment to each other and to partnering; acknowledge how far you have come.
- Reconsider your values and priorities; update them if necessary.
- Assess your short list of basic partnership needs and make sure you are addressing the ones that are relevant at the time. For example,
- Household
- Social
- Financial
- Sexual
- Parenting
- Spiritual
- Work
- Vacation, play
- Intellectual pursuits
- Others you agree upon
- Introduce a longer-term goal and make it manageable by breaking it into smaller, doable action steps. Integrate these steps into your date book for the coming months. Do Couples Get Back Together After Cheating
Relighting Romance Partnership is a journey, and your Relighting Romance date book represents your map. Scheduling your regular touchstones together will help you to clearly envision and evaluate where you are headed. It will also keep you on track so that neither of you loses your bearings.
Once these practices and routines become second nature, you'll be a wellseasoned traveler who no longer needs a map. And you'll discover that you and your partner have the energy and time to enjoy each other to the fullest - and to create the ideal life you have envisioned together. Next, we'll focus on bringing your romance to a new high, or if you have lose your partners, we have ways to win them back. At mean time, you can check out Do Couples Get Back Together After Cheating.
